6 Things To Consider Before Eloping
6 THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE ELOPING
ADVENTURE ELOPEMENT PLANNING + RESOURCES
OREGON, WASHINGTON AND DESTINATION ELOPEMENT PHOTOGRAPHER
Being a destination adventure elopement photographer, I have heard a lot of stories. Stories of why people want to elope. Stories of successful elopements. Stories of “oh I wish we did…”.
This article is something from my heart to you. Please consider this a resource from a friend who has first hand experience with elopements and that friend just want to make sure you get the most accurate, up-to-date information instead of “Oh I heard this from a wedding blog in 1992 that doesn’t even know what elopements mean”
1) Don’t think with your head. Think with your heart
The definition of elopement has changed dramatically the past 2 - 3 years. It’s no longer running to the court house, repeat after the judge, and sign the paperwork. Sure it is still an elopement. However, elopement has become so so so much more.
Couples who choose to elope now have more options in terms of how big, how small, where, how, and what they do they want to include on their wedding day.
With options and choices, sometimes, it is harder to decide exactly what you want do or one of the most popular questions I get almost on the daily is “We don’t know if that’s the right thing to do. Help?”
My biggest advice is:
Sit down with your fiance
You both close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths
And one at a time, each of you just describe what you envision, what you want to see happen on your elopement day
Don’t think about logistics. Don’t think about anything else.
Describe: Who do you see standing there witnessing your vows? Where exactly is that spot? Are you in a field of flowers? Are you on top of the mountain somewhere? Is this a place you see on social media? Or it’s somewhere totally unreal and you’re not sure if this place truly exists? What else do you do on that day? Do you have a cake there? Is there a bon fire? Are we camping or staying in a cabin? etc…
That right there is think with your heart instead of your head. You just painted a picture of what you truly want to do. It did not involve money or who you have to please. Just simply things that would make your elopement day a meaningful one.
What you describe there might not be everything you will do but at least, that is the very first draft to planning your dream elopement day.
2) How many people should we invite?
The best thing about an elopement is that there is no rules. There are laws yess. But no rules.
No rules on how many people should be there. No rules on how long the day has to be. No rules on what you need to include in your day.
With that being said, different photographers might look at this differently. Some photographers charge differently if it’s just you two versus if you bring 1 or 2 or 5 of 10 guests. So I’d strongly suggest you look into their pricing and what they offer in order to make sure you are within budget.
From my photography stand-point, each elopement is so different and I don’t usually have a rule on how many people can be there. I 100% believe that it’s your wedding day and you should have people you love whom love you back there for you and with you.
I have photographed multiple elopements where it’s only the couple. I have also photographed multiple elopements with around 6 - 8 guests.
If you want to ask “So which one is better?” I don’t have an answer for you.
How many people my couples invite to their elopements truly reflect who they are as a couple and so should you
If you invite 4 - 6 guests because they mean the world to you and have been through all the ups and downs with you, invite them
If you invite 4 - 6 guests because they would be butt hurt if you don’t invite them, forget that.
It’s your one important day, do it the way it makes your heart happy
3) Do we need to hire an elopement planner? What other vendors do we need to think about?
One of my best friends in the wedding industry is an elopement planner and my husband is one too. However, I am not going to just say “Yes you definitely need one”. My job is to make sure you get all the support and resources you need, no more, no less.
From my honest opinion, if it’s the two of you and all you care for is a beautiful location with beautiful photographs, you don’t need anyone else but an officiant.
However, if you are thinking about getting help with finding a cabin to stay, maybe a private chef or some sort of catering, looking for a florist or a violinist, someone to take care of all the logistics, who advocates for you, then yes, I think you need an elopement planner.
Lots of time, these elopement planners are skilled at floral designs and/or ordained, so they can work with you to create beautiful arbors, floral arrangements, and marry you both :) It’s like a one stop for all :)
4) How do we make it official? Law? Paperwork and all that jazz?
After all, it’s not just a photoshoot. It’s your wedding day and we need to make sure we can get everything officially documented and filed.
So yess, RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!!! When picking a beautiful location, google search “Marriage License” and add that location to it.
Some of the factors you need to know would be: Do you need an officiant? Witnesses? How many? Required wait time between applying for the license and actually getting married?
States like Washington and Oregon require 1 officiant and 2 witnesses.
States like California require 1 officiant and 1 witness
A lot of time, besides photographing you guys, I also act as a witness :)
For international destinations, some of my couples wanted to make the process easy with less paperwork to jump around by getting married legally at home at a courthouse. However, they won’t exchange their personal vows until the official date where they go on an adventure with me.
5) So How Much Money Are We Saving?
Just because it’s an elopement, it doesn’t mean you will spend less money on vendors. Overall yes you might spend less because of the guest list, but not on each individual vendors.
Your dress, suit, veil, rings, planner, florist, photographer, videographer don’t become cheaper because it’s an elopement.
Your elopement day is not limited to 4 hours or 6 hours or however many hours you book your vendors. Years and years from now, when you look back, it’s your day. It’s the entire day! Therefore, as a photographer, I always treat it like such. It’s a whole day. It’s a whole day full of love and experience. And I will work my butt off to make sure that experience is worthwhile.
6) Who should we hire as our elopement photographer? How should we decide who’s the right person?
By now, just to make things easy, I am just going to say “Me”. Hahaha. Just kidding.
In all seriousness, a photographer can make it or break it when it comes to guiding you through the planning process and capturing photos that truly reflect you, your love for one another, and your story.
To decide whether a photographer is for you, I strongly recommend:
Read their blog posts, see their gallery, or even ask for sample galleries to see what kind of photos they capture. Are those photos the ones you seek for, the ones that speak to your heart, the ones you wish to have for generations to see?
Budget: Yes this topic is sensitive and trust me, I don’t like talking about money either but it’s so so so important. I am a huge believer in “You pay for what you get”. If everyone you see charge around $4,000 for an elopement and you see someone else wants to charge $1,000. Ask yourself why? Why is that person charging so low? Are they aware of how much work involved in planning and photographing an elopement? If they are not aware, what is their experience? I am not saying that you have to book a photographer with the highest price, I just want you to be aware of the industry standard and what’s appropriate and what’s not.
If you love what they do, if you think how much they charge is within your budget, send them an Inquiry and get on the phone with them. I don’t book anyone until I get on the phone with them. I want to learn about my clients. I want them to know more about me. I want to be as transparent with my clients as possible. I want to see if we are a good match because it means whether we can foster an authentic relationship for authentic photos or not. If not, it’s ok. It’s not personal. There’s a photographer out there for everyone.
My job starts THE DAY YOU INQUIRE. It doesn’t matter if you end up booking me or not, but all I know is that I START WORKING ON THAT VERY FIRST INITIAL EMAIL. I listen to you, read about you, get on the phone to learn more about you. Then I start doing research to come up with location recommendations and other logistics planning.
I hope that this article has helped you in anyway when it comes to planning your dream elopement. As you can see, I don’t like using the word “perfect” so no, you won’t see me say “plan your perfect elopement”. Because truly, that’s the beauty of an elopement. Things don’t have to be perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist and is not necessary when it comes to planning on a day full of memories and happiness.
Thanks for reading and let me know have any questions and/or add in the comment below
Or Am I for you and your dream elopement?